Celebrating the First Year of My Amazing Lesbian Marriage

On a cool Saturday – October 6th, 2012,

I took a walk, holding the hand of my best friend, my soul-mate, and the love of my life.


I stood in front of my friends and family, and hers.

VLPlr_77There were passages read,





Homilies were presented.

Underneath a natural chuppah

of leaf and limb.

As God’s presence

became visible

and felt

in light

and gentle

Autumn breeze.




We made promises.

Solemn vows.


And we placed rings on our fingers.


Flowers were placed at our feet.

As our friends placed them around us, as an act of prayer, and symbolizing support, eternity, unity, and trinity,


while “Holy,



played in the background.

Prayers were prayed.



And just like that…

with much prayer, reverence, humility, and gratitude,

a marriage began.

It’s been one year of Christian marriage. The federally legal will come soon, as we wait for the state.

We have laughed until tears have streamed down both of our faces.

We have held each other through loss and pain.

We have prayed prayers together, and sung hymns.

We have learned how to agree and how to disagree.

We have learned how to appreciate, to inspire, and to challenge each other.

We have grown, and are continuing to learn how best to help each other grow.

It has been one year of Christian marriage…

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And we are celebrating and thankful for our friends and family who have supported us, and are continuing to surround us with the love and support those flowers at our feet represented.

One year, D…

and counting for eternity…

Love Always,



Departure of DOMA & Prop 8

Today is a good day.

We are so much closer to having full marriage equality. It has been a day of tears, phone calls, texts, and the overwhelming desire I have now to be with my wife, to hug someone and cry tears of celebration together.

Instead, I sit at my desk, finding it difficult to concentrate for the joy rising in me. For the hope rising in me. For the fight rising in me, to continue to fight for equality for all.

This is not the end.

It is certainly not the beginning. So much has been done to get us this far.

What we do know is that something very special happened today. Something good. Something in the name of Love.

I do believe God’s spirit is moving in a mighty way. To come alongside those of us who have been oppressed. I believe that we are called to continue to work. To bring equality to all people. To love.

Love, indeed, wins.


love wins.